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The following is a guest post by Carolyn Appel. Every trainer is in the profession of changing lives through changing behaviour. Carolyn gives us some of her own personal strategies when dealing with “stuck” clients. If you’re interested in submitting a guest post please check out the contribution page.

I recently had a client thank me. It wasn’t gratitude for something I had said, but rather for what I had not. Knowing that Donald hadn’t exercised in between our weekly sessions (for months), I chose not to say anything about it.

Any comment from me would have only added to the disappointment he felt in himself for being negligent. And guilt certainly isn’t the foundation upon which lasting behavior changes are made.

Therefore, I stay silent about Don’s failings and speak up about the good progress he’s made during our sessions.

Naturally, it can be frustrating when he doesn’t hold up his end. I often feel that I want him to do better than he wants it for himself. I also realize that, as his trainer, I have an obligation to nudge and encourage Don to change the lifestyle that led him to call me initially.

That phone call was his first step towards changing his habits but that doesn’t mean that he was ready to make all of the other necessary adjustments right away. Patience is key, for both of us, so that he can slowly absorb my teachings and take action to reprioritize his behaviors.

Often, a catalytic event will cause someone to wake up from their years-long coma of being hyper-caffeinated, undernourished, overstressed and physically-deteriorated. It may be that the “fat” pants no longer fit or perhaps it’s the disgust that it only takes an incomprehensibly small act of exertion to get out of breath, to jar a sleeping soul into action.

Whatever the reason, people arrive at their pivotal moments on their own.

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In my experience, no amount of begging from the wife or nagging from the doctor will cause a person to change. It has to come from them.

And it usually requires a person to hit a low point, as difficult as that may be to watch from the outside. Especially as a health professional, who knows about the long-term repercussions of bodily neglect and abuse, I have to battle impatience while waiting for a client to reach this point. It may take him weeks, months, and sometimes years while I am working with him to make a change.

Trainers get into this profession to help people. We are a caring group who wants our clients to look, feel, and function better. Our way of showing that caring can sometimes border on overbearing by airing our frustrations to the clients about what they aren’t doing.

Of course we know that training once or twice will not erase the damage and neglect that takes place the rest of the week. However, I feel that for my chronically-negligent clients (there are a few), harping on what they aren’t doing has the potential to erode their confidence and trust in me, ultimately weakening my long-term influence on them.

If clients, like Donald, aren’t moved to action by my weekly reminders then I change my strategy and back off. This removes any negative feelings of guilt while allowing him to realize that, although we are in this training process together, the onus is truly on him to make the change. All I can do is be there to guide him with information and encouragement [if and] when he reaches that pivot point.

Here are some ways to help your “stuck” clients make changes:

Ask Questions

Finding out what barriers they perceive to be preventing them from making the change. This can go a long way towards helping both of you understand the client’s stagnation. In a non-judgmental way, and with a genuine effort to understand their struggles, try asking the following open-ended questions:

- What prevents you from getting to the gym more often?
- What do you think would help you get to the gym? Change your eating habits?

Decisional Balance chart

Another great tool to have your clients fill out on their own to think more deeply about the benefits and costs of making a change and to identify the reasons why they haven’t yet made the change. Keep in mind that this chart can be used for any behavior, not just a health-related one.

1. Identify what behavior the person wants to change.
2. Fill out the chart honestly to determine what the benefits are of changing and what specific reasons are preventing the change from being made.

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Some follow-up questions that may help direct your clients’ thinking about making a desired change:

—- How long have you been contemplating this change?
—- What is the primary reason you haven’t made the change yet?
—- Do the benefits of making a change outweigh the benefits of not making a change?
—- What opportunities can you see for personal development by making this behavior change?
- —What steps will you take to put into action the desired change?

Reminders

The more repeated exposure your clients have to the desired behavior the greater the probability that they will actually make a change.

You may find yourself repeating the same mantra during your sessions: “Do your cardio,” “Don’t forget to stretch,” “Stop eating pizza.” I also send email reminders and occasionally leave voice messages to reinforce what we discuss during our sessions.

Show positive examples

When the Olympic trials were on I called a client who, a former gymnast, was just getting back into training. She saw the magnificent athleticism and strength of those women and it inspired her to push harder during our sessions and on her own.

As a trainer you are constantly being viewed as an example of superior physical health, whether you like it or not. Clients look to you to epitomize many of the qualities they are training to achieve.

Carry yourself with positive energy and poise—embodying good physical health—because the association with you will help clients move in that direction.

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Be an example for your clients.

 

The fact that they hired you reflects their desire for help because they recognized that they can’t do it alone. Be patient. BE VERY PATIENT.

Keep on Movin’

-CA

Got any strategies you’d like to share for “stuck” clients? What are your go-to strategies for client behaviour change? Comment below.

 

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How to be a personal trainer carolyn appelCAROLYN APPEL received her Master’s degree in Motor Learning and Control from Teachers College, Columbia University and is a Certified Strength and Conditioning Specialist (CSCS) through the NSCA. With a background in competitive, collegiate-level tennis, Ms. Appel has built a career on her passion for fitness, athletics, and skill development. She has worked in the fitness industry for the last decade and has written articles for numerous publications including Muscle and Fitness, Allure Magazine, and on her blog at www.carolynappel.com
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  • Kyle Schuant

    I like the side note. This is why I strive to be among the non-fitness elite in terms of diet, etc. Let’s face it, “stop smoking, eat breakfast, eat more fresh fruit and vegies, less junk food and booze,” will get the vast majority of our clients 90% of the way towards their looks, health and performance goals. While there are some clients who need more than that, most of the PT market is not fitness models and top athletes. 

    Josh Hills noted that women who can deadlift 60kg and do a few chinups tend to achieve and maintain their body composition goals. You can quibble with the lifts, but there’s no doubting that in terms of looks, getting stronger lets you be less than perfect with your diet. 

    • http://twitter.com/MarkYoungTrain Mark Young

      I agree that trainers need to make fitness much more accessible for average people.  

      Although I’m not sure about breakfast.  ;)  Plenty of information now suggesting that it isn’t perhaps as valuable for health/fat loss as we once thought.

      • Kyle Schuant

        I’ve introduced literally hundreds of people to the gym. What I’ve found is this. Not everyone who eats breakfast eats well through the rest of the day. But everyone who misses breakfast or has a token piece of toast eats badly through the rest of the day. 

        If I can’t get them to start eating a decent breakfast, I can’t get them to change anything else. The person who won’t add an egg to their piece of toast and have a glass of milk with it isn’t going to be counting up the grams of protein they’re eating or ensuring they get 2 fruits and 5 vegies a day. If they actually will change their breakfast, that small and simple step can sometimes lead to other change in their food; not always, but sometimes. 

        As well, most people work or study during the day, so they can work out in the mornings or the evenings. If they don’t have breakfast they won’t work out in the morning, immediately after work they’re tired and the gym is crowded so they decide to have dinner first, then they’re full so they won’t work out. The people who work out in the mornings are simply more likely to stay as gym members and PT clients.

        People having breakfast is also important to me since I do all my PT in the mornings, and I don’t like it when people faint or vomit.

  • Kyle Schuant

    I like the side note. This is why I strive to be among the non-fitness elite in terms of diet, etc. Let’s face it, “stop smoking, eat breakfast, eat more fresh fruit and vegies, less junk food and booze,” will get the vast majority of our clients 90% of the way towards their looks, health and performance goals. While there are some clients who need more than that, most of the PT market is not fitness models and top athletes. 

    Josh Hills noted that women who can deadlift 60kg and do a few chinups tend to achieve and maintain their body composition goals. You can quibble with the lifts, but there’s no doubting that in terms of looks, getting stronger lets you be less than perfect with your diet. 

    • http://twitter.com/MarkYoungTrain Mark Young

      I agree that trainers need to make fitness much more accessible for average people.  

      Although I’m not sure about breakfast.  ;)  Plenty of information now suggesting that it isn’t perhaps as valuable for health/fat loss as we once thought.

      • Kyle Schuant

        I’ve introduced literally hundreds of people to the gym. Not everyone who eats breakfast eats well through the rest of the day. But everyone who misses breakfast or has a token piece of toast eats badly through the rest of the day. 

        If I can’t get them to start eating a decent breakfast, I can’t get them to change anything else. If they’ll change that, that small and simple step can sometimes lead to other change in their food. People having breakfast is also important to me since I do all my PT in the mornings, and I don’t like it when people faint or vomit. 

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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=14312518 Amanda Meisner

    I’m a new trainer as well as a graduate student of nutrition and food science…. While I completely agree with the points in your article I’m still boggling my brain about how to execute these ideas into a plan for my clients. If I’m an outpatient dieticien and only have 1 session with pt’s then how do you suppose I help them use this gradual change method without them relapsing. I’m worried that in today’s world where everything is a quick fix and results are obtained instantly that people will not be satisfied with small changes. And if I only have 1 session with someone I want to give them enough tools to make a change and encourage them to strive towards other changes after that, just not sure how to organize it for them.

  • http://twitter.com/FitTwinCities Mark Spurbeck

    Great article. You are right, clients have to have that ‘aha’ moment in order to be successful. You can’t do it for them. We have to be patient, but firm.  We need to know when to get after someone, and know when to back off. It’s amazing how much being able to read people makes a difference in this profession. It’s a balancing act. Thanks for sharing your insight.  

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